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Movie Mud Startling for Unexpected Reason

27 Friday Jun 2014

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A few days ago, Rich and I watched the movie Mud, featuring Matthew McConaughey and two young actors in a drama set in De Witt, Arkansas. Wanting to learn more about the town, and the actors, I want online.

Mud-Movie-Poster-Matthew-McConnaugheyOne actor, Jacob Lofland, grew up Briggsville, Arkansas, 180 miles northwest of DeWitt. Unincorporated, Briggsville, is located in Yell County, which had a population of 22,185 in 2010, and per capita income of $15,383, making nearly 12% of the family and 16% of the population below the poverty line.

Briggsville, and Yell Country, however, is flush compared to De Witt. The county seat for Arkansas County, De Witt had a population of 3,292 in 2010 with a per capita income of $3,408. That’s not a typo. The median income for a household was $2,545.

A quarter of De Witt residents live in poverty, including a third of kids, and nearly 22% of seniors (age 65 or older). Arkansas County is slightly better off than Yell with the per capital income being $16,401 and only 18% of the population, living below the poverty line.

This is America.

It’s not a fictional, award-winning movie or some imaginary place. It’s the despair, and generation-upon-generation of poverty that exists across America in towns and cities of all sizes.

According to the website Poverty USA, one in six Americans live in poverty. To put this statistic into perspective, the number of people living in poverty is around 46.2 million, equal to the combined population of Texas, New Mexico, Oklahoma, Kansas, Colorado, Arizona, Utah, Wyoming, Nevada, and Nebraska.

The organization’s interactive poverty map, shows Arkansas has an overall poverty rate of 19.8%. Mississippi, on the other hand, has the highest rate with 24.2% people living below the poverty line.

Think about it. One in four residents of Mississippi probably run out of money by the end of the month, even if they’re working full-time. Earning $7 per hour equates to $14,560 per year or just $1,213 per month, which needs to be stretched to cover housing, utilities, transportation, healthcare, childcare, clothing, household supplies, and food. Earning a dollar more per hour, equates to a paltry extra $173 per month.

Now imagine living on $3,408 per year like people do in De Witt.

Poverty in America isn’t something you can switch off when the movie ends. It’s the stark reality of what 50 years of self-interest economic and social policies have wrought.

Reminded as to Why I Should be More Grateful

07 Thursday Feb 2013

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This morning, like all workdays, our alarm went off at 5:45. Rich rolled over, shutting it off, and dozing back to sleep. I willed myself awake knowing, I needed to go to the gym. I try to work out at least 4 days a week.

Half an hour later, I found myself, doing leg lifts with 90 pounds of weight. Wow! When did I go from lifting 50 to 90 pounds? Didn’t matter. There were other exercise machines to do, followed by planks, sit-ups, abdominal exercises, and finally, the dreaded Stairmaster. The only thing worse than the Stairmaster is running. At least with the latter, I can read while huffing and puffing up flights of stairs.

After the agony ended, it was time to shower, change, and zip to work. While sipping my first cup of coffee, I absentmindedly tore off the next page in my Mary Engelbreit 365-day calendar. It showed a woman opening a wooden box with a red heart inside. The quote was:

The greatest treasures are those invisible to the eye but found in the heart.
Maryanne Williamson

I paid little attention to the saying, returning to the tasks-at-hand. Then a few minutes later, I glanced at the calendar, February 7th.

And then it dawned on me.

Six years ago, while driving to Dell on a rainy Thursday morning, I slammed on the brakes to make way for a car getting on the freeway. I should have downshifted, but was used to driving my automatic Honda and not Rich’s manual Kia. Instead of slowing, the Kia swerved and spun across two lanes of the freeway, coming to a stop when a large box truck slammed into the driver’s side of the car.

It took several minutes until I gain consciousness. By then, the driver of the truck had slipped into the passenger side of the car, and was holding my hand. A nurse who was driving to work stopped to assess my condition… and strangely, a short-time later, an off-duty paramedic showed up, followed by emergency personnel and an ambulance.

Because of two very quirky happenstances, I sustained relatively few injuries. First, the lap belt in the Kia was broken so I was only wearing a shoulder belt, which enabled my entire body, except for my left leg to be thrust into the passenger side of the car when the Kia was struck by the truck. Wrecked Kia driven by Julie Lary

Secondly, a friend at Dell had given me a super heavy black, leather coat, which I was wearing that day. The coat deflected the flying glass from the windshield, and also prevented the shoulder belt from cutting into my body.

In all, I fractured my left pelvis in four places because my left leg got caught under the driver seat while the rest of my body went the other direction. I also cracked two ribs, and had minor abrasions on the top of my head. No doubt, I was outrageously lucky.

I was immediately taken to the Brackenridge Trauma Center in downtown Austin, where my clothing was cut off, needles inserted, and body prodded. After x-rays and a CAT scan were taken, pillows placed under my left leg, and morphine administered, I wondered why they didn’t just slap a cast on my hip, and send me home.

Instead, I was admitted, given little to eat (in case I needed surgery), and told an orthopedic surgeon would see me the following day. The surgeon, Drake S. Borer with Austin Skeletal Trauma Specialists, waltzed into my room late Friday morning. A tall, trim, attractive man, he had an air of confidence and cavalry detachment.

He explained to Rich and me that “we” had two options. He could pin the pelvis, sharing he was pretty good at missing major blood vessels and nerves as he drilled and pushed a pin through my pelvis. Or I could put no weight on my left leg for eight weeks, and allow the bones to knit together. The no-surgery option, however, required that get out of bed by the next morning, balance on my right leg, and use a walker to get around.

Rich chose the latter.

I had my doubts. As the morphine wore off, and I switched to hydrocodone every four to six hours, I realized every aspect of my body was connected to my pelvis, and the slightest movement caused surges of pain. Moving my left leg even a fraction of in inch caused blinding pain, not to mention the agony of sitting up.

Wrecked Kia_2My broken ribs added to the misery, making it painful to lift my arms, let alone pick up anything or use them to move my body. Nevertheless, Saturday morning, I was eased out of bed, my catheter removed, and a belt placed around by waist by two physical therapists, who then proceeded to help me onto my right leg.

I thought I was going to pass out, but managed to grasp a walker, hop on one leg out of the room, into the hallway, and then back to the bed.

Sunday morning, I walked a bit further, and by that evening, I was wheeled over to a rehabilitation center to start a week of intensive physical therapy. By the time I left, I could get in-and-out of the bed by myself and into a wheelchair, race down the hallways in my chair, dress myself, tend to my personal needs, and even use the walker, but for short jaunts. It would take weeks before I could go any distance using a walker, mainly because holding up my left leg, using muscles attached to my fractured pelvis was astonishingly painful.

Eight weeks after my accident, I was cleared to start putting weight on my left leg. I visualized immediately walking.

Even though I’d spent the prior few weeks doing physical therapy in a pool in preparation to walk, my first few steps were horrifically painful, and I immediately plopped down in my wheelchair.

While Dr. Borer had mentioned the first year after my accident would be painful with the pain decreasing every year after; and by the third year, I’d be nearly healed; he neglected to mention two little words, “leg cramps.”

Yes, leg cramps. Like CONSTANT leg cramps. Like horrific leg cramps that wake up from a sound sleep if you happen to flex your foot. And he also didn’t mention it would be at least six months before I could lie on my side for more than 30 seconds. I slept on my back with my hips flat on the mattress for close to a year. Rolling over was painful and not worth the effort. It was even uncomfortable to lie on my right hip because my left hip wasn’t being supporting. Wrecked Kia_3

When I moved to Washington in late June, a few months after the accident, to accept a position with Microsoft, I made a point to walk as much as possible. Until we purchased a house in Kirkland, I lived an apartment, which was a mile from Microsoft so I could easily walk to-and-from work. And on weekends, I took long walks or visited area parks to build up strength and mobility.

Many of my walks ended in tears with my hip hurting, leg cramped, and exhausted from the exertion.

There was no denying the first year was challenging. Year two was much better, and by year three, I nearly forgot about the injury, except for the occasional leg cramp in the middle of the night!

And today, I’m whining about twenty-minutes on a Stairmaster, oblivious to the fact six years earlier I couldn’t wiggle a toe or shift in the bed without wincing in pain, and the only relief was a beautiful, white hydrocodone pill.

I had a remarkable recovery, considering what happened. I need to be more grateful for the opportunity to not only be able to walk, but hike, bike, kayak, gardening, torment Rich, and yes, work up a sweat at the gym.

Crying Behind the Smiles

05 Thursday May 2011

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Last weekend, I went to the Temple B’nai Temple Sisterhood Retreat at Camp Brotherhood in Mount Vernon. I debated for weeks about attending, reasoning I knew only one person – Shana Aucsmith, the first vice-president on the temple’s board of directors. A few weeks before the event, however, following a performance at the synagogue by Vagabond Opera, I walked into the Judaic Shop.

While browsing the shelves, and wondering whether I should buy Rich his own Hanukah menorah so I wouldn’t be competing with him to light the candles on mine, I was unexpectedly inspired to ask the women in the shop about the retreat. I had no idea whether they’d ever attended, let alone knew about it.

I can still visualize, Norma, who I later met at the retreat, smiling and explaining it’s an amazing experience and I should go. I was intrigued by Norma. Her bright smile, laughter, and cool earrings. I also noticed her cane, and sensed she may have difficulties walking long distances.

Learning from Norma that around fifty women would be attending the retreat, I concluded I could easily hide if I didn’t feel comfortable spending a weekend with women I didn’t know.

On Friday, I started to wonder why I’d signed up to attend the retreat. The weather was going to be splendid and I felt an obligation to help Rich set up our raised vegetable beds in Mount Vernon. Plus, Rich is my rock and anchor. He makes me strong and keeps me focused on what I need to achieve. Without him, I’m lost, aimlessly drifting through life, doing what’s necessary without any direction.

Before I married Rich, I lived day-to-day, convinced my life was little more than going to work, occasionally going to social events, and catering to my mother’s perpetual needs. I had many acquaintances, but few friends, having consumed decades of weekends doing what my mother wanted instead of creating a life for myself.

To a certain extent, I’m in the same mindset so when Rich dropped me off at Camp Brotherhood, late Friday afternoon, my overriding aim was simply, “get through the day.”Cow_cropped

After getting my packet, with the key to my room, I quickly dropped off my bag, and raced down to the see the farm animals; it was less intimidating than going into the dining hall and introducing myself to others at the retreat. As expected, I was enraptured with the animals: Four curious emus that grabbed at my rings, several bossy geese, dozen or so cows including calves, several sheep and two alpacas that had no interest in interacting with a human, three miniatures horses, one mule, and a magnificent ivory-colored angora goat who welcomed being caressed. And at one end of the pen where the emus were kept was a box of bright blue-green eggs. Emu_cropped

After enjoying the animals, I wandered up to the dining hall and was greeted by Julie M (also attending the retreat was Julie K, and I, Julie L.). Not knowing who she was, I rambled about my background and how I was surprised when during Friday night services the rabbi started accompanying the pianist and singer… his wife…

“Wait,” I suddenly thought. The rabbi’s wife is name Julie… ummm… Julie M… Muriel!

“Jeepers, how will I ever extract my foot from my mouth,” I regrettably pondered. There was nothing to be done aside from take a deep breath and excuse myself to meeting another person and once again commit a faux paux.

Dinner was pleasant with many charismatic women who shared humorous stories about their travels – our assignment to share later that evening. Energized and satiated from dinner, we walked up to the camp’s chapel, a simple, yet spiritual building with tall windows that look out onto the forest below. Emu eggs_cropped

Our chairs in a circle, we started the Shabbat services, specifically written for that evening with passages of importance to women. Were also given a pen with one word on it, meant to signify our focus for the weekend. Mine said “cherut,” which means freedom in English.

Using our pens, we were asked to write our autobiography in six words. I wrote, “Stopped breathing. Rescued. Now breathing freedom.”

Those six words were all it took to plunge me into a downward torrid of tears. Towards the end of the service, when we were asked to stand and create a healing circle, I was too overcome with emotion to continue. I rushed outside and cried, and cried, and cried.

Goat_croppedI cried because I miss my dear grandmother, Rose, who comforted, encouraged, and love me after my father died. As a sensitive nine-year old, who dissuaded from spending time with friends, I was constantly berated and belittled by my narcissistic mother who half the time saw me as an inconvenience, and the other, as a minion to cook, clean, garden, and cater to her escapades.

My earliest memories were of being scolded, told to stop crying, and then passing out because in an effort to curtail my crying, my tongue would curl back in my throat cutting off my breathing. It happened many times until I learned to put my hand in my mouth to prevent my tongue from cutting off my breath.

“Stopped breathing.”

Whoa. I can’t believe what I just wrote. I hadn’t thought about cutting off my breath for so long… I need to resume writing about the retreat at another time. The emotions it aroused are still too fresh.

Day of Caring

11 Friday Sep 2009

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For the Microsoft Day of Caring, I volunteered to teach basic computer skills at the Kirkland location for Hopelink, a non-profit organization that offers more than 40 services to help homeless and low-income families, children, seniors, and people with disability become more self sufficient.

I started writing this blog while waiting for others to arrive. In the background, I could hear the clatter in the food bank, which is at the back of the building. I peeked through a door where other volunteers from Microsoft were sorting donated goods.

My heart is pounding because I remember helping at a food bank in Austin, Texas when I worked at Dell. It was heartbreaking to sort through and clean discarded and donated goods that would be given to those in need. From high-end grocery stores came canned white asparagus, petite peas, and other esoteric gourmet foods.

Most canned and packaged goods, came from everyday grocery stores. Boxes of dented cans, returned items, meats and dairy products with dates nearing expiration, droopy or excess produce that couldn’t be sold… torn bags of dog and cat food, opened or dented boxes of feminine goods and cosmetics… virtually anything that couldn’t be sold to consumers with money in their pockets.

The horror of food banks isn’t the food. It’s the realization that the donated foods and goods are often not enough to meet the needs of the low-income, homeless, working poor, elderly, and others who don’t have the means to feed themselves let alone their families.

Although, Amy Arquilla, a senior manager with Hopelink, commented that she believes the Kirkland food bank fulfills the needs of most people in the area. In addition, it’s open extended hours and set up like a grocery store to make it easy to “shop” for food.

She had noticed, however, that for the past fourteen months there’s been an increase in people coming to Hopelink and the food bank. "Many people are a paycheck away from having to seek help," she explained. Others – the working poor – have paychecks, but they’re insufficient to cover basic needs from housing to transportation, insurance, utilities, healthcare, and food.

According to Amy, a livable wage on the east side (Kirkland, Redmond, Bellevue, etc.) is $22 per hour. The minimum wage in Washington is $8.55.

The least expensive apartments in the area range from $785 for a 506-square foot studio in Redmond to $995 for a 784-square foot one-bedroom in Bellevue. If you work 40-hours per week at $8.55 and are in the 25% tax bracket, after paying the rent on a $750 apartment, you’d have $69 per week for food, transportation, gas, utilities (i.e. phone, cable), insurance, healthcare, and other necessities.   

Amy further elaborated on the working poor, mentioning that the Redmond Target and Home Depot allow people who live out of their cars to sleep in their parking lots as long as they leave by morning. Unaware that the Day of Caring party was schedule to be held at the Purple Cafe and Wine Bar in affluent downtown Kirkland, Amy commented that the homeless spend the night in places one wouldn’t expect, such as the parking lot behind Purple!

I’m intrigued and horrified to take Amy up on her invitation to cruise around Kirkland, Redmond, and Bellevue at 2 a.m. and see the parking lots where the homeless are sleeping in their cars. As she spoke, I recalled that a large white van has been parked towards the back of our neighborhood Safeway. Inside lives a woman and her small dogs.

Just three miles from our house, and close to Hopelink, is the Holy Spirit Lutheran Church where one of the largest tent cities in the area is erected. Every few months, the tent city moves to another church! Looking on the Internet, the church unabashedly announces on their home page that the tent city will be located in their parking lot from August 1 – October 31, 2009.

I don’t know if I can sit idle. They’re asking for volunteers to serve meals… I need help…

My Sister

01 Tuesday Sep 2009

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When I visited Portland, Wendy, my best friend and soul sister, met me at the train station. I was thrilled to see her! She is the most upbeat, determined and resourceful person that I’ve ever known. Wendy

She’s been a public speaker under the name "Infectious Enthusiasm," done community outreach and marketing for a hospice, the Salvation Army, Girl Scouts, Portland Community College, and other civic and non-profit groups.

I’m convinced that she knows almost every cool woman in Portland and some in Seattle. When I first moved to Seattle, I took her to the Microsoft company picnic and she immediately spotted someone that she knew!

While I was a wallflower in high school, she was the homecoming queen. She’s blond and fair skinned with smile that lights up the room. She’ll walk up to anyone and start a conversation and vice-versa. As the maid-of-honor at my wedding, she was equally the bride, radiant, greeting guests and making them feel welcome.

Here she is with my mother at Marine Polis Sushiland in Tualatin (before I figured out how to remove the black-and-white feature from the camera I was using). She bravely ate the plates of raw and somewhat cooked fish that I plucked from the conveyor belt. 

She is more than a friend. She is my sister for ever and ever!!!!

End of the Accident

29 Sunday Apr 2007

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This was my first week back to working full-time, on-site. Monday was a little tiring and Tuesday didn’t seem so bad. By the end of the week, I was trotting off to the bathroom and other buildings without thinking about the length of the walk.
 
I also went to the gym twice to ride a recumbent bike and Elliptical trainer and do exercises on the floor with resistance bands and an exercise ball. While some stretches continue to be painful, for the most part, my strength and flexibility are nearly normal.
 
Even though it’ll be several more weeks before I can walk, garden or do housework for several hours at a time, I’ve decided to officially say "good-bye" to my accident on April 30th. For that day forward, I’m going to blame all stiffness and aching not on my accident, but on aging and being out-of-shape!
 
My x-rays on April 19th showed that my bones are almost knitted together and there’s no misalignment of my pelvis or sacrum. It’s now up to me to do daily stretches, keep physically fit and watch my weight.

Au Natural No Longer in Vogue

16 Monday Apr 2007

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For the last year or two, I’ve been receiving the Forbes lifestyle email newsletter. I find the articles amusing because… I’m absolutely not the target audience. Three million dollar condos, $2,000 slings, $60,000 sports cars, and $750 a night hotel rooms border on preposterous. Rich and I think we’re splurging when we choose Red Roof over Motel 6 and a Mexican restaurant over the dollar menu at Taco Bell.
 
Nevertheless, I do occasionally find something of interest in the Forbes newsletter. Most recently, they showcased the newest cosmetics for men. What! That’s right, today’s metro-sexual man can add some color to their checks with Male Species Starburst Face Bronzer or cover up those pesky blemishes with Males Species Tinted Crème Foundation & Concealer.
 
Naturally Man offers Aye Aye with "biomechanical properties" to stretch and firm the skin under tired eyes. There’s nothing feminine about this product. It’s a "masculine mixture of botanicals" to reduce "darkness and pouches."
 
Ken Cosmetics invites men to "dare to be" with colour (their spelling) foundations, lip glosses, mascaras, and eyeliners. For the lips, chose Nexus – copper gold stick, Sexus – sunkist brick stick or Plexus – luminosity gold stick. You can also correct what nature didn’t make perfect with VoLIPtuous Lip repair Serum, X-Treme Lip Service and FULMONTY Lip balm.
 
You can also get some Blo-Job Bronzing Powder from Ken Cosmetics in four pleasing colors: Caramel/earthy, butternut, spice, and sunkist. Add a brush of Glo-Job Body Glow in gold, ice (silver) or bronze (copper) and you’re ready to hit the town.
 
With 4VOO Men’s Eyelash & Brow Styling Glaze, your "eyes come alive," especially if you follow their application tip and "apply a second time for added thickness." They also offer eyeliner, shine reduction power, face and body bronzer, lip serum, shimming tint, and moisturizing lip protector.
 
Now when I see a man with flawless skin, bronzed checks, glossy lips, and long, dark brown, eyelashes, I’m going to wonder "is it him or is it Maybelline?"

Walking… Finally!

07 Saturday Apr 2007

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For the past few weeks, I’ve been doing therapy three times a week in a heated pool. In a short time I’ve gone from feeling miserable and having very tight, painful muscles in my left leg to being able to move and bend the leg, and lay on my stomach and both sides.
 
My therapist, however, haven’t allowed me to put any weight on the leg, based on a physical therapy prescription written in late March by my rehabilitation doctor. We have another prescription from my orthopedic surgeon written in early February that refers to being able to put weight on the leg if the pain was tolerable.
 
For two weeks, my therapist has been trying to get approval from the orthopedic surgeon to allow me to start walking in the pool, where most of my weight is supported by water. He hasn’t had much luck so Rich interceded and got a hold of the x-ray technician in the surgeon’s office. He pulled out my chart and essentially read what was on the prescription… "weight-bearing if tolerated."
 
My therapist, insisting that he can only "work off of one prescription," obviously never bothered to read the orthopedic surgeon’s instructions!
 
Hearing the conversation Rich was having with the x-ray technician, I exclaimed "Enough is enough. It’s over!" With that proclamation, I arose from my wheelchair, grabbed by walker and put weight on my left leg. Its held and surprisingly didn’t hurt!
 
Moments later, I was hesitantly walking using the walker. Thrilled, I decided to try it sans-walker. No such luck! My attempts were painful and awkward.
 
Happily, the next morning, eight weeks after my accident, I had an appointment with the therapist’s assistant, Mia. Marathon-runner thin and in her 40’s, Mia not only assigns challenging exercises, but watches every movement I make, ensuring they’re done correctly. The other therapists simply sit by the pool and tell me to do scissor kicks or bicycle for ten minutes.
 
Mia confirmed what was written on the orthopedic surgeon’s prescription then put me through my paces, including, when I was in the pool, teaching me how to correctly walk.
 
When you’ve been sitting in a wheelchair for two months, you need to retrain your muscles to walk heel-toe, swing your opposite arm, keep your "core" tight, and not rotate your hips. It’s humorously hard considering I’ve been walking, running, hopping, and jumping for decades.
 
It’ll be at least a week before I can dispense with the walker and walk comfortably on my own. By the end of April, I should be back to norm. Meanwhile, I’m doing lots of exercises at home and concentrating on every step I take to make sure I’m not learning bad habits.

Status Report

20 Tuesday Mar 2007

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With great dread and trepidation, I started working part-time this week. Even though I was cleared to only work 4-6 hours per week, I’ve been working 7-hour a day, which are short compared to my pre-accident 10-11 hour days.
 
I’d been counseled by a nurse, assigned to me by my health insurance company, to push back and not over-extend myself, but it’s difficult to say "no" when I’m the sole person doing messaging and marcom for "D" Worldwide Consumer Services. It’s become obviously that no one "picked up the ball" in my absence.
 
Meanwhile, my broken pelvis, sacrum and ribs are giving me little grieve and I’m finally able to lie for a few minutes on my right side. Progress!
 
Just as my leg pain was easing, my stomach, intestines and everything in-between decided to go on strike. I’m going on day ten of eating small portions of bland food. When I initially got sick, I stopped taking my pain pills. Half of me believe that some of my digestive distress is related to withdrawing from opiates. I’ve always been sensitive to medications. Grumble.
 
Even though I’d been fantasizing about starting to walk in late March, my orthopedic surgeon won’t be taking x-rays until mid-April. At that time, he can determine how well the bones have healed and when I can start putting weight on my left leg. In preparation, I start therapy in a warm pool this week. I’m very excited to be able to swim and awaken muscles that have been dormant asleep for six weeks.
 
A few days ago, I realized that I could park my wheelchair next to the staircase, carefully sit on the first step and pull myself up step-by-step. Once upstairs, I can slid on my rump into the bedroom then use the furniture to hoist myself up onto one leg. From there, I can climb into our bed and cuddle with Rich. It is bliss to have him comfort me when I wake up at odd hours or have a nightmare, which happen way too often.
 
Along with my digestive challenges, I can only sleep for a few hours at a time. After I’m awake, it takes hours to fall back to sleep. I despair of ever being normal again!

Thursday Memories

08 Thursday Mar 2007

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Four weeks ago, on a Thursday morning at around 6:30 a.m., my accident occurred. This Thursday morning, like the last four, it’s hard not to wonder why it happened. How did an ordinary Thursday go so wrong?
 
Happily, in three weeks, I intend to walk and in three months, I’ll be 100% back to normal!
 
In the meanwhile, my mind, helped by narcotic pain pills, has been dredging up childhood memories that were long forgotten. When I was eight, my father had a heart attack, caused by a congenital narrowing of an artery leading to his heart. In those days, the treatment for a heart attack was oxygen, bed rest, and a low-sodium diet. Heart surgery didn’t exist.
 
My father had a garment factory in downtown Los Angeles, which made fancy dresses and pant suits for Saks, J.C. Penney, and other department stores. After his heart attack, my mother ran the factory until it could be sold months later. My brother and I alternated staying home from school and taking care of my father. For the most part, we probably watched TV and occasionally got him something to eat.
 
That summer, we were sent to a day camp at a local college. The camp was a front for a nationwide study on children’s fitness. Along with participating in many activities like swimming, gymnastics and kickball, we were weighed, measured, photographed, and tested for strength. The study was eventually published and reported that American kids were out-of-shape. No doubt. Princess Julie, who was highly uncoordinated and disliked almost all outdoor activities, was part of the study.
 
The best part of those summer days was coming home to my father who would prepare elaborate lunches. He’d cut up fruits and vegetables and artfully arrange them on plates. Even leftovers where treated with reverence.
 
An hour or so after lunch, we got to swim or visit with friends. It was probably the best summer of my childhood.
 
Six months after my father had his heart attack, an embolism lodged in his lung. He was dead within minutes of arriving at the hospital.
People wonder why I had no cuts on my face after my accident. I’d like to think that my father had his hands over my face as the windshield shattered and shards of glass flew across the car.
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